Virginity has been a word of
immense personal dignity, pride and virtue especially for any lady who understands
what it weighs till the time it will be fully honored. Its honour is due only
to the lady who hasn’t engaged in any illegal sexual intercourse right from her
adolescent age till the night of her wedding. According to Wikipedia, “virginity is the state of a person who has
never engaged in sexual intercourse...
The concept of virginity has traditionally involved sexual abstinence
before marriage and then to engage in sexual acts only with marriage partner.
It usually involves moral or religious issues and can have consequences in
terms of social status and in interpersonal relationship”. Since God has
created male and female, he has been bestowing female with a special honor of
being a virgin which pride shall be fully fulfilled when kept to be discovered
by someone that her cap fits. This is reason some cultures associate it with
ritual importance, impurity, personal chastity, religious significance socio-cultural coupled with moral significance;
hence Hanne Blank said “virginity
reflects no known biological imperative and grants no demonstrable evolutionary
advantage.” In parts of the world, the first sexual intercourse is very
important for female as many cultures consider it to be important personal milestone. It is believed that any lady found un-deflowered
has to be treated with absolute care by her husband. She is said to be a source
of honour to her family and a priceless jewel to her husband‘s family; any
child given birth to by her is believed to be an inestimable gift from God. In
some parts in West Africa, there has been a norms and spiritual notion that virgins
are so cherished by gods; any ritualistic sacrifice to be offered to them has
to be spear-headedly carried out by someone who hasn’t sold herself for
ephemeral love of adolescence. The enamoring part of this is that loss of
virginity before the marriage is a matter of deep personal shame as it is
closely interwoven with personal and even family honour. The first sex to be
had by a female determines the success of her marriage whether she is invaluable
asset or ordinary instrument of sex and child-bearing to her husband. If she is
not however found to be as expected, the family of bridegroom has no choice
than to accept their destiny but the woe will always be on her family as they
will be negatively wagged tongues at and nothing besides housing of matches, empty gourd will
be sent to her family, symbolizing that the she is not found virgin and has
thereby brought indelible shame to them. However the prevalence of virginity
varies from one culture to the others. Some cultures place more honor to it
while some do not, depending on their individual belief. Some Arabian cultures implore female to marry
at early age so as to prevent losing her virginity due to some circumstances
besides sex. Engaging in sexual intercourse without being married further subjects
the involvers into severe penalty. Research shows that in many modern-day
Western cultures, losing virginity is not that valued and sexual abstinence is thoroughly
discouraged especially in modern days of twenty-fourth century when moral and
personal pride of being a flowered girl is lost and glory for being a Holy Mary
is buried in oblivion.
Many researches I have done both
on social networks and among peers concerning if there are still virgins in
this twenty-fourth century of ours. Many a time I have had one-on-one dialogue
and besought from young lovers of today if we can still come across someone
with this eternal pride, but left agape with different responses from them. The
worst part of it is the mockery rejoinders of ladies on this matter. A lady once told me that if I want a new ‘holy
Mary’, what I can do is to start nursing a young girl of five from her primary
school till the time she will fathom the pride in virginity and henceforth keeps it for me till
the ripe time I will make the most use of her beauty. To be candid, I can say
seventy percentages of men wants their future partners virgin, despite that
they are thieves in love. I met a guy who declared to me openly that she has
defiled and denied many ladies of their virgin hood, though he will never marry
them, but he will be happy if he can be fortunate to get virgin as wife in
future to come. A guy also told me that the day he discovered that is
girlfriend who has been lying for him before was not a virgin, he blatantly
told her that the relationship has reached its stoppage. These indeed show that
we still have many salivating for untouched maidens as wives but the question
is who wants to make the sacrifice?
According to neo-classical
writer, John Gay in his Beggars Opera, “virgins
are like the fair flower in its luster, which in the garden enamels the ground;
near it the bee in play flutter and cluster.
Butterflies frolick around. But
when once plucked, it is no longer alluring. To Covent-garden it is sent as yet
sweet, there fades and shrinks, and grows past all enduring, Rots, stinks and
dies, and is trod under the feet.” Looking at this aphorism, it gives full details of what virginity worths in
the society, if virgins don’t give ground for false lurkers to break through
the rule of their decency and let their passion run away with their sense.
Because when woman considers her beauty,
she is unreasonable in her demand for she wishes to be loved forever by her lover
as she loves herself, till she loses her pride to false tales of Cupid
unknowingly. In this century, I have seen ladies sold her pride for money.
I do wonder if these ladies know what they posses. This is the cogent reason
many do not have husband; those who have see their matrimonial home as dungeon of hell for them and
later seek for divorce as quick alternative when their partners can no longer
bear the pain of the wound. No wonder, many female singers and actresses don’t
have married partner yet at the time they are supposed to-who wants to marry a
bitch and someone who has metamorphosed herself into social stigma. I read from ‘THE WEEK’ online webzine that
Catalina Migliorini, a young twenty years old Brazilian and a student of
physical and heath education sold her virginity for $780,000 to a Japanese man
she met online and that big share from the money would be donated to home of
poverty-stricken families. But is this a genuine reason for losing her pride? This typifies
mediocrity out of parochial thinking and short -mindedness; it portrays that in this twenty fourth
century, the rate at which virginity is cherished is reducing drastically and
day by day, the close perspective at which women are rendered valueless and
instrument of sex only by men in the society has grown wing. They hence say ‘women are of the same feathers which need
to be flocked together’.
In nutshell, I believe virgins
are still common but they are protecting themselves against wolf which sexual
harassment has turned the society to. Mothers and individual have work to do to
revive the dying glory of virginity in this century. It is responsibility of
mothers to tutor their female off springs on the need to preserve themselves
for their married partners instantly they observe they have reached the stage
that ‘the big brothers will be looking for their innocent chicks to strangle’. Females
should also understand the fact that it is what kept weighs worth. No man will be happy for not meeting his wife
as virgin especially if he has been the type that hasn’t involved in the game
of this nonentity. A friend told me that
his brother jilted the lady he was dating before, having realized that she is
empty barrel not worth of being garnishly preserved.
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